The experiences of our ancestors, both positive and negative, can leave an imprint on our lives. Unhealed ancestral wounds can manifest as recurring patterns, negative beliefs, or unexplained emotional blocks. Ancestral healing can help break these cycles, leading to greater personal growth, self-awareness, and emotional well-being.

Self-acceptance is an ongoing process. It takes time and effort to develop a healthy sense of self-worth. But it is worth it. When you accept yourself for who you are, you can live a happier and more fulfilling life.

Learn some proven, easy steps to start building self-acceptance right now!

Do you have activities you enjoy, yet you can’t seem to get yourself to do them? I’m not talking about things you know you should do, like exercise or eating healthily.

There are likely underlying negative feelings or beliefs associated with the activity. These negative associations in your subconscious mind are holding you back.

When it comes to your identity - the way you see yourself - you have options. You can’t change the events of the past, but you can tell yourself a different story about it. A story where you’re the hero.

You’re the one in control of your narrative. You get to decide which part of the story to place focus on. Which feels better: feeling different, rejected, and unable to control the situation or being adaptable, inclusive, and able to move forward?

Learn the steps to reframe the story you tell yourself about YOU!

Most of us are aware that we’re harder on ourselves than anyone else. We’re so much more capable of letting our friends and family off the hook for minor offenses than we are for our own mistakes. Forgiving ourselves our imperfections can be an incredibly freeing experience!

In years of listening to advice given to my clients from their higher selves, spirit guides, power animals, and the like, there's definitely a few common themes. One of those common pearls of wisdom is…

Lighten up!

Healing the past doesn’t have to be as hard or complicated as we make it out to be. I see fast and lasting change in one or two sessions. Here’s one technique that works.

We can accept one another, without accepting another’s beliefs. It begins with focusing on the common light. That source energy that connects us all.

Whether you see that as spiritual or metaphorical, we’re part of the web of life and what any one of us does, creates a vibration that touches us all.

In neuro linguistic programming (NLP) and hypnosis training, practitioners are taught to stay away from this F-word…

FORGIVENESS!

We’re supposed to say “release” or “letting go of the past.” And, I have found it to be true that many clients say “I’ve already dealt with my feelings about _____ [my mom, dad, abuser, etc.]”

They’ve come to heal their inner child, not rehash the hurtful behavior of other people.

The truth is, they’re inseparably connected.

Let me know if this sounds familiar: you have that goal or resolution in mind, you have it all mapped out - the when and the where you’ll do it…

But, there’s an overwhelming feeling of dread that you’ll just disappoint yourself, again!

I used to HATE to exercise. It didn’t take much exertion to get my heartrate up and make my lungs burn. Now I’m a regular runner (okay, more like a walk-jog-walker) and I actually love it!

But before I got there, I started and stopped more times than I have fingers to keep track with.

How did I go from huffing and puffing in misery and stalling out the same week I started, to a regular runner 4 to 5 times a week?

​I know, I know, it’s hard to stick to meditating, right? I used to meditate so sporadically! I felt great when I did it and I’d think, Why aren’t I doing this all the time? But, then I’d get into a stressful period (when meditation would have the highest benefit) and I’d feel like, I just can’t!

Studies have borne out what my personal observations have shown me: meditation increases goal congruence. No matter what your plans are for self improvement, you’d be hard pressed not to find a way that it would be improved by regular meditation.

We do certain things at certain times, cued by the environment. If you’re trying to start or stop something, take a moment to consider when and where you do the activity (like watching TV after work).

Let’s say you want to watch less TV and pick up a creative habit. If you watch TV when you come home from work, you might set up the dining area or other room with your craft supplies and head straight there when you come home. The new space will reduce the drive toward the habitualized behavior of watching TV and cue you toward the creative activity.

When starting a new habit, even the slightest friction can significantly reduce our ability to complete the task. We’ve all experienced times when we were going to do something, looked at it, and decided it was too much work. That’s friction! You can use this friction to your advantage.

When I look back over all the tools and techniques I’ve learned, employed, and taught to others, there are two that stand out. I’ve already written about the habits of mind that make a huge difference, now, here are some that help with physical habits.

We all know how hard it can be to motivate ourselves to make positive changes that are good for us. It seems overwhelming the number of times we’ve started and stopped. Here are the pro tips I’ve used that have the largest impact

I’m offering free hypnosis on Thursdays at noon (Pacific Time), starting in January, 2022. I’ll do this as a Facebook live (also available in Zoom and, potentially, Instagram).

What hypnosis themes are you most interested in? I need your help deciding which subjects are of the highest interest. I’ll mix it up, so there’s something for everyone, but I want to hit those subjects that resonate most.

Vote for the hypnosis you want.

We imagine unwanted outcomes all the time. We spend hours envisioning the possibilities we don't want. We never ask ourselves ”Is this real?” We have total faith that it could happen! If we use that time to enjoy a positive vision of the future, at the very least, our here and now feels better!

Your subconscious mind takes everything literally and says, “As you wish.” Your self-talk is building the reality you live in. Build one that feels good.

People tend to think of confidence as a state where you’re without fear or hesitation. You want something, you go for it. Getting to a state where you have no fear is not only boring, it’s dangerous. Fear helps with discernment. It’s the voice of warning when a person or situation feels off. It also tells you when you’ve come to the edge of your comfort zone, and that is where the magic happens.